What may seem like a harmless pastime has proven to be psychologically destructive to a whole generation of boys.

“Arousal addictions” are just as powerful as addictions to cigarettes, alcohol, food and heroin and they are getting in the way of school work, relationships and ambitions.

The consequences could be dramatic: The excessive use of video games and online porn in pursuit of the next thing is creating a generation of risk-averse guys who are unable (and unwilling) to navigate the complexities and risks inherent to real-life relationships, school and employment.

Boys seem to be particularly susceptible and are falling behind in school, college admissions, graduations and in the job market.

“Failure to launch” has become a real thing not just a movie.

“Boys Adrift” by Dr. Leonard Sax talks about an epidemic of unmotivated drifters.

Children who exhibit self control at a young age turn out to be more successful and healthy adults than their “immediate gratification” counterparts.

This video duplicates The Stanford Marshmallow Study which was a test given to children to challenge their fortitude when faced with the option to eat one marshmallow now or wait and get two.

Watch the results for a laugh and some insight.

Fueled with an enhanced sense of entitlement and greed, studies show that the rich are more likely to lie and cheat for personal gain.

He got the idea for the study watching people cut others off at a four-way intersection. His sense was that the most aggressive drivers were the ones with the most expensive cars. To test this, his first experiment tabulated the behavior of 274 drivers at that same intersection. Sure enough, drivers of expensive cars were the most likely to cut others off, he found.

So, just because someone seems to have it all don’t don’t expect them to be more generous.